Dear Fertile People

Things an infertile girl wants you to know

Month: April 2013

Don’t Say This

I hate being pregnant.

Ugh. This one is hard to explain. It basically comes down to gratefulness and how you display it.

I’m sure that you are happy that you are pregnant. I’m also sure that pregnancy is hard, physically and emotionally. I know that. You know that. We all know that. It hurts, you feel gross and your hormones are going crazy.

I hate being pregnant.

To an infertile person, this statement is like a punch in the gut. It knocks the wind out of you and all you can do is stand there with your mouth open, trying not to cry. Or lash out. The only thing going through your head is, “Do you have any idea how badly I want what you hate?”

Infertile people are everywhere. Men, women, young, old. There is no tell-tale sign of an infertile so assume that we are everywhere. We are behind you in the grocery store check-out, sitting next to you in Starbucks and working on the other side of the cubicle wall. We are everywhere. Just remember that.

We are everywhere.

Don’t Say This

Just pray about it.

Ok, where to start? Let’s start with the assumptions.
Let’s just assume that you and I have the same religious beliefs. Now if you and I have the same beliefs, wouldn’t it also be safe to assume that I have already prayed about it?

If we don’t have the same religious beliefs, it’s kind of like patting me on the head and walking away. The thought of prayer makes you feel better. Weren’t we talking about me though?

Unless you know for sure that I have the same views as you, don’t assume. Just say that you wish me luck.

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